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My daughter-in-law has forbidden us from seeing our dear grandchild. My wife went over with cupcakes and couldn't even get through the door... Ask Lisi

And Lisi shares thoughtful reader feedback.

I don't understand why our streets aren't cleared. Hello, snowplows! You've had nine months of no work. Why aren't you stepping up? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer with burning waxing questions.

I've wronged a lot of people with mindless speech. So I decided to email apologies to those I've hurt. Well, it hasn't gone quite how I planned... Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who had a negative interaction with a health professional.

I think I'm in love with my chiropractor. His touch is electrifying. I asked him out. His response confused me... Ask Lisi

LISI column for Saturday, March 8, 2025.

I never wanted kids. Then I fell head over heels for someone who wants to have children with me. Can I change my mind? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who is missing an earlier version of his life.

Revenge of the 'childless cat lady': New research shows single women are the happiest people in the world

Raised on romance novels, single women are made to feel like odd socks miserably biding time till they’re paired up. But as their numbers grow, they’re pushing back. Hi

My wife and I share everything. Well, almost everything. She thinks it's fine to use my toothbrush. I say no way. Who's right? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who never married or had children, and is feeling all alone in the world.

My neighbours and I share a wide front doorstep. After a big snowstorm, I noticed they shovelled only their half of the step! This is an outrage, right? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who feels overwhelmed with a new baby, new marriage and new job.

Did the pandemic destroy good manners? Five years since COVID, bad behaviour is everywhere

Watching videos out loud on the train. Berating servers. Experts explain why our social graces have never been worse.

My girlfriend dumped me because I partied too much. So I partied harder. Then my ex did the strangest thing... Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who is frustrated that her friend groups won't mix.

I was out for dinner with friends. Out of the corner of my eye, I saw two women roll their eyes about me. Then it happened again! Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who feels family pressure to succeed.

I thought my wife has having an affair. She insisted she wasn't. Then I cheated. My wife was oblivious. Now why do I think she's hiding something from me? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who is frustrated with her sexless marriage.

Looking for better love: I put off finding my person until I got the rest of my life sorted out. Now I'm ready for the big one

Amanda, 32, is a straight woman looking for a long-term monogamous relationship with a man.

My boyfriend is 5'8" and I'm six feet tall. You wouldn't believe how people stare at us. Is it their problem — or ours? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who is feeling despair about the state of the world.

When I call my sister, she grabs her husband, puts me on speaker and says, 'What's up?' Is this normal? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who finds her aunt's breath atrocious.

I just turned 16. I don't want to get my driver's licence. Should I? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who wants to support her child during a gender transition.

I've been hanging out with this girl at work for nine months. Every morning, we bring each other coffee. Two days ago, she didn't answer her phone. Then I got fired... Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who needs help navigating changing friendships.

I was at the movie theatre with my daughter. I bumped into three 'mean girls' from my high school. When I tell you I was shocked at how they treated us... Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer whose husband exhibits controlling behaviour.

Two parents at my child's school are clearly having an affair. It's SO obvious. Have they no shame? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer whose boyfriend has no (sexual) game.

Looking for better love: I've never been in a relationship. Now I'm ready for someone affectionate and loving — and with a warm smile

Simi is a female health care professional, 48, looking for a long-term monogamous relationship with a man.

I thought she was the coolest woman I knew. Recently, I saw her again after decades and was shocked. Where did her twinkle go? Should I have asked her? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who is hurt by her daughter-in-law.

My girlfriend isn't a morning person. She grunts in passing and won't speak until she's dressed. Is this a dealbreaker? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who is rattled by an encounter with a stranger.

My teen daughter was in a car accident. Her friend's mom didn't get snow tires! I want to scream at her. Should I? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who wants to help a hurting friend.

My mom hired contractors to reno her home after my dad died. She came home one day and the electrician was wearing my father's fedora. And that's not all. Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who is concerned about a neighbour.

I was engaged to a woman I loved. Then I fell for our wedding party planner. And that's just the beginning of this story... Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer whose brother may be heading down a dangerous path.

I started secretly taking pole dancing lessons for my boyfriend's birthday. Then he told me he's got plans with his brother that night! Is he into me or not? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who is annoyed by his girlfriend's breast augmentation.

Why is dating in Toronto so hard? We asked singles — and they didn't hold back

From lack of local banter skills to a phenomenon known as "the Miami effect," daters told us what it's really like to look for love in this city now.

Watch: What's it like to date in Toronto?

The Star took to the streets and spoke with love-seekers who say the Toronto dating scene is as frigid as this weather.

My son made some new friends. They dress stylishly and wear product in their hair. There's also a new smell in the basement. Should I let it go? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who is frustrated with her daughter's puppy-related whims.

My friend has cancer, so we threw her a party. Then a woman showed up with a bottle of booze and it all went downhill from there... Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who dislikes the way her roommate treats his girlfriend.

Bridget Jones rides again, this time with a much younger guy. What it means to Gen X women who saw ourselves in her

Bridg was an appealing emblem of utter averageness. Her newest turn in 'Bridget Jones: Mad About the Boy,' out February 12, is harder to swallow.

My husband and I split up. Now he's turned our whole town against me. People are so rude at the grocery store. Am I cancelled? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who feels burdened by too many obligations.

My husband and I were great friends with a couple. I adored the wife. Then she died tragically. Now he's met someone new... Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who wants to strike up a romantic relationship.

My friend died. I hoped to see a mutual friend of ours at the funeral. She was a no-show. Is she ghosting me? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer how to separate friendship and politics.

My daughter just told me she's engaged. I've met her boyfriend twice in the six months they've been dating. She is 22. This is nuts, right? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer whose husband wants to "amp up" their sex life.

Five Toronto singles' events where you might just find your perfect match

Tired of dating apps? Here are upcoming mixers ranging from singles' cooking classes to a queer trivia night.

My neighbour got fired and divorced during the pandemic. Now she takes care of dogs. When I knocked on her door, I was shocked by what I saw... Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who misses how her kids treated her.

My daughter is 16 and refuses to wear a coat, hat or gloves. Hello?! It's winter. It's Canada. I'm steamed. Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who's fed up with bad customer service.

I have a serious crush on my friend's dad. He's single and divorced. Bad idea? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who wants to turn a Pilates group into something more.

I walked into a parent-teacher interview and saw my ex. I was shocked! We hugged longer than we should have. Do I tell my wife? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who wants to say "doggone it!" to his neighbour.

Our relationship was intense, passionate. We broke up. He got into drugs. We reunited and split again. Then I got into drugs. Is he the one? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who's tired of her "pinchy" uncle.

Lately, when I come home from work, my wife is waiting for me — and ready to go, if you know what I mean. We're both 60. Is this normal? Ask Lisi

And Lisi shares thoughtful reader feedback.

My boyfriend just dumped me. But the reason he gave just doesn't add up... Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who worries about two-faced people.

My husband and I make good money in Toronto, but we're barely scraping by. Genuine question: how are people making it? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer whose daughter's nail-biting habit is driving her up the wall.

My co-worker will not stop talking about 'Hump Day' in a sexual context. He literally grinds up against his office buddies. Should I say something? Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer frustrated with her "deadbeat" ex.

I retired last June. At first, it was great — I travelled, swam, golfed. But now that it's winter, I'm sad and my wife's attitude is 'Told you so...' Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer about etiquette.

I wrote in last year after my older sister broke my heart. Well, since then, things have only gotten worse... Ask Lisi

And Lisi shares thoughtful reader feedback.

My roommate has a nice new girlfriend. The problem? They are so loud in bed that I had to move my furniture to the other side of the room. And it's still not enough! Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer who is disgusted with his brother's suggestive attitude toward his wife.

Single women are happier than single men, study finds. This could be why

Experts at the University of Toronto told the Star single women have more social connections besides their partner — and might even consider the "cost" of being in a relationship to be the same as singlehood.

I'm so close with my twin sister. That's what makes this so hard: I think I have a crush on her new boyfriend... Ask Lisi

And Lisi advises a letter writer whose relative is dealing with the pain of pregnancy loss.