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From: Vellacott,
Maurice HOUSE OF COMMONS CANADA
Attn MPs
and Senators: More
evidence that we need to address this porn problem for the good of society. Maurice Vellacott, MP Saskatoon-Wanuskewin 613-992-1899 September 25, 2013 The Stealth Threat to Families Some threats to
the family are overt, and are trumpeted in daily news headlines. Others are
more subtle and insidious, as in this true story: After two years
of marriage, Lynn realized that her husband was addicted to pornography.
He was often on the computer most of the night, and was late for work so often
that he lost his job--which meant he was on the computer most of the day as
well. Depressed, confused, and frustrated, Lynn sat in the same room with him,
holding their little child, and trying to get her husband’s attention, who ignored them both. His pornography addiction--and the
sexual abuse that followed--led to the inevitable divorce, and the devastating
emotional scars that would haunt Lynn for years to come. It is
unbelievable that pornography is often marketed as a harmless or even healthy
pastime. In reality, it is one of the most stealth, ominous threats to families
across the world. Respected neurosurgeon Donald
L. Hilton, Jr., M.D., states that pornography produces an addictive neurochemical trap akin to crack cocaine. “Pornography
wants you,” Dr. Hilton says, “It wants your husband or wife,
it wants your son and daughter, your grandchildren, and your in-laws. It
doesn’t share well, and it doesn’t leave easily. It is a cruel master, and
seeks more slaves.” Gordon
S. Bruin, M.A. adds that “since the introduction of the internet, pornography
has become a worldwide pandemic.” The truth is that pornography is dangerous to
individuals, families, and societies. Pornography is
harmful to individuals. Dr.
Hilton explains that pornography actually shrinks the frontal lobes of the
brain, similar to the brain damage caused by car accidents and drug
abuse. He continues, “Patients with frontal lobe damage exhibit a
constellation of behaviors we call frontal lobe
syndrome.” Frontal lobe syndrome includes the following behaviors: 1.
The patients are impulsive, in that they thoughtlessly engage in
activities with little regard to the consequences. Neuroscientists confirm that addiction is
addiction is addiction. No matter whether the source comes from external drugs
or “natural addictions such as pathological overeating, pathological gambling,
and sexual addictions,” it is still an addiction. Pornography is a real,
physical addiction. Pornography
hurts marriages and families.
Licensed Mental Health Counselor
Dolores T. Puterbaugh points out that pornography is based on deception, and “any act
of deception creates a small brick in a wall that mars the intimacy of the
married partners.” In addition, Canadian-born author and Marriage and
Family Therapist, Jill C. Manning confirms that just one household member using
pornography impacts the entire family. Dr.
Manning testified before a U.S. Senate Judiciary Committee that pornography
undermines the stability of family relationships by decreasing parental time
and attention towards children, and increasing the stress in the home from
parental job loss and financial strain or separation and divorce.
Dr.
Manning also explained that pornography use by a parent
increases the risk
of children’s exposure to pornography, which can leave lasting
negative impressions on the child, lead to earlier onset of first sexual
intercourse, and undermine their success in future relationships. Pornography
even impact entire societies. As noted in UFI’s Guide
to Family Issues: The Harms of Pornography, “Private behavior
can have public consequences. . . in the nations where
the availability of pornography proliferated, rapes and sexual assaults
increased dramatically.” In addition, Dr. Hilton asserts that pornography
actually contributes to the demographic decline of nations. “Biologically, it
destroys the ability of a population to sustain itself. It is a demographic
disaster. The author Tom Wolfe said, ‘The bigger pornography gets, the lower the
birthrate becomes.’” Noting that
many countries are now below the 2.1 fertility rate needed to sustain a
population, Dr. Hilton explains, “There is a direct correlation between the
growing cultural dominance of the sexual revolution and the diminishing
birthrate, and while causation may not be proven, it is strongly supported by
the pheromone effect of pornography.” While Dr. Hilton freely admits that
many things contribute to demographic decline, he argues that the “biological
factors of human sexuality and family stability are primary and, in my opinion,
haven’t been appropriately weighted.” Citing Cambridge anthropologist
J.D. Unwin’s research that examined 86 cultures over
5,000 years, he notes, “cultures that had no restraint on sexuality, without
exception, deteriorated into mediocrity and chaos.” With such a
bleak picture, what can be done? Recognizing the seriousness of pornography
addiction is a good beginning. Recovery is possible but it is not easy.
According to Dr. Hilton, successful intervention “must recognize the problem as
a full addiction, and treat it with the same consideration given to alcohol or
chemical substances.” Most families find that a trusted addiction
recovery program is necessary to achieve lasting success for everyone involved,
including spouses and others indirectly affected by a family member’s
pornography use. In today’s world where pornography is available on every
mobile device, it is more important than ever for parents to have open, ongoing
conversations with their children about the dangers of pornography, and to
model self-restraint and healthy relationships in their own
lives. As an
organization dedicated to preserving the family we plead with concerned
citizens everywhere to: 1. Educate
yourself and others to the seriousness of this concern. Thank you for
helping United Families International preserve a
future for families! Faithfully for
Families, Laura Bunker President, United
Families International For
information about the harms of pornography and the road to recovery: UFI
World Family Forum • “Southern
Utah Regional Conference," St. George, Utah, Nov. 5. Go
here for more information. More
Reading: A Modern-Age Addiction Dr.
Manning also explained that
pornography use by a parent increases the risk
of children’s exposure to pornography, which can
leave lasting negative impressions on the child, lead to earlier onset of first
sexual intercourse, and undermine their success in future relationships.
Pornography
even impact entire societies. As noted in UFI’s Guide
to Family Issues: The Harms of Pornography,
“Private behavior can have public consequences.
. . in the nations where the availability of pornography proliferated, rapes
and sexual assaults increased dramatically.” In addition, Dr. Hilton
asserts that pornography actually contributes to the demographic decline of
nations. “Biologically, it destroys the ability of a population to sustain
itself. It is a demographic disaster. The author Tom Wolfe said, ‘The bigger
pornography gets, the lower the birthrate becomes.’” Noting that
many countries are now below the 2.1 fertility rate needed to sustain a
population, Dr. Hilton explains, “There is a direct correlation between the
growing cultural dominance of the sexual revolution and the diminishing
birthrate, and while causation may not be proven, it is strongly supported by
the pheromone effect of pornography.” While Dr. Hilton freely admits that
many things contribute to demographic decline, he argues that the “biological
factors of human sexuality and family stability are primary and, in my opinion,
haven’t been appropriately weighted.” Citing Cambridge anthropologist
J.D. Unwin’s research that examined 86 cultures over
5,000 years, he notes, “cultures that had no restraint on sexuality, without
exception, deteriorated into mediocrity and chaos.” With such a
bleak picture, what can be done? Recognizing the seriousness of pornography
addiction is a good beginning. Recovery is possible but it is not easy.
According to Dr. Hilton, successful intervention “must recognize the problem as
a full addiction, and treat it with the same consideration given to alcohol or
chemical substances.” Most families find that a trusted addiction
recovery program is necessary to achieve lasting success for everyone involved,
including spouses and others indirectly affected by a family member’s
pornography use. In today’s world where pornography is available on every
mobile device, it is more important than ever for parents to have open, ongoing
conversations with their children about the dangers of pornography, and to model
self-restraint and healthy relationships in their own lives. As an
organization dedicated to preserving the family we plead with concerned
citizens everywhere to: 1. Educate
yourself and others to the seriousness of this concern. Thank you for
helping United Families International preserve a
future for families! Faithfully for
Families, Laura Bunker President, United
Families International For information
about the harms of pornography and the road to recovery: UFI
World Family Forum • “Southern
Utah Regional Conference," St. George, Utah, Nov. 5. Go
here for more information. More
Reading: A Modern-Age Addiction |